It seems like almost yesterday I was moving into a dorm, ready to begin my life as an independent college student. Now, I am officially halfway finished with higher education and have grown into a whole new person.These past two years has been full of self- discovery, up and downs, and life lessons. It is almost sad to see how fast time has gone, but I am grateful for all the amazing experiences I have had and is yet to come.Here is what I have learned so far:
It is SO easy to get distracted
The one aspect of my freshmen year that I regret, is the fact I spent way too much time on making friends, going to parties and being in a relationship. It came to the point where I would avoid all the work piling up on me and go out instead. I wanted to make sure I was getting the “full college experience” and did not want to miss out on anything.
While I do find it healthy to take a break from work and partake in college activities, it is also important to not let it get in the way of your education. A degree will help you begin your dream career, but let’s be honest, the party that seemed so important in the moment, will be forgotten within a week.
whoever has my voodoo doll please make it study
— Blair (@blairdaddio) April 24, 2018
To get out of this rut, I sat down and reminded myself the real reason I worked so hard to be there, and that is to get an education. I decided to turn my priorities around and find a balance between work and my social life. I joined clubs, went to my professors’ office hours, and learned to say no to people. This has helped me surround myself with friends who are as driven as I am and grades I am proud of.
People will come and go
In high school, I was lucky enough to have a small group of friends who were always there for me and brought out the best in me. I never experienced any drama, everything was so easy. However, once I got to college, that all changed. I had friends who made me feel bad about myself and dated people who made me feel like I was not enough. I let it take a toll on my self- esteem and I found myself saying “what did I do wrong?” more than I should.
My mom has always told me that if someone does not want to be a part of your life anymore, simply let them leave because they are not worth your time or energy. It does not necessarily mean it makes them a bad person, but they were not meant to stay.
At first, it was hard to accept this advice because I would take this person’s absence in my life personally. Someone who I enjoyed spending time with and cared for did not feel the same, and I did not know how to handle that.
Once I began to change my mindset, I slowly began to accept the fact that not everyone is going to be there. I decided to shift my focus away from the people who do not lift me up, and put it towards the people who are there for me and make me happy.
Although I am still learning to this day to not let people’s actions get to me, I keep reminding myself about the amazing friends I have met and share many memories with.
Office hours are more helpful than you think
Going to office hours has helped me out tremendously in my times of struggle. Sometimes, when a student is a part of a lecture that has more than a hundred people, it can be hard to keep up and ask questions. Going to office hours allow you to talk one on one with your professor and get the help you need.
Whenever there is a test I am worried about, I always make sure to go see my professor before the big test day. What better way to study than reviewing with the person who created the test? You will find yourself going into your next exam feeling more prepared and confident.
Office hours also gave me a chance to get to know the people around me better. The students who go to office hours are struggling as well and it is the perfect opportunity to create study groups and make friends.
Here’s to taking the knowledge I’ve gained, share it with others, and making the next two years the best they can be.
Also published on Medium.