My Experience Dealing With My Curly Hair

Curly Hair

For as long as I can remember, I’ve hated my curly hair. It’s wild and frizzy and constantly giving me a hard time. My mom always berated me for hating it and wishing to any God that existed that I could have pin-straight hair like those models in hair commercials. It took me almost 18 years for me to finally accept and start loving my curly hair.

I started to love my curly hair when I finally found hair products and a style that worked for me. When I was younger, my parents liked me to cut my hair shorter because it would get dry and damaged so easily. As I grew up, I realized that longer hair complimented my face and my hair type.

When I had shorter hair, I would get a lot of layers that would make my hair look like a throwback to the beehive hairstyle. Now, I try to keep it longer and have longer layers that don’t make my hair poof up as much.

I also found the perfect shampoo and conditioner for me. I started loving my hair around the time I discovered OGX Quenching + Coconut Curls Shampoo and Conditioner. I searched far and wide for the best shampoo for curly hair. I’ve been on beauty blogs, hair tutorials, product websites, and so much more searching for something that would tame my mane.

I have thick Indian hair that can either be wavy or curl into ringlets – whatever it’s feeling like doing that day. Or it can be a cross between straight and wavy with about four times the frizzy. Because my hair was so unpredictable, a lot of hair care products weren’t right for me. I needed something that could do it all.

Coconut Curls shampoo and conditioner was it for me. It left my hair soft, luscious, and exactly the right amount of curly. The only problem is that it’s sometimes hard to find. It took me so long to find this because this isn’t OGX’s most popular shampoo. Bless Amazon. Grab the link below. 

I learned quickly that my hair doesn’t hold heavy products well. One of my friends with very curly hair swears by her leave-in-conditioner and says that it changed her life. When I tried it, my hair felt heavy and itchy all day. While it helped tame my curls, I hated the rigid feeling of the conditioner and the feeling of something weighing down my curls.

I’m a no-nonsense person who doesn’t like anything extra on my body for day-to-day. I hate wearing jewelry or anything in my hair other than a hair tie. Finding something that I liked but also fit my demands was harder than I thought.

I eventually settled on Herbal Essence Tousle Me Softly mousse. Although I don’t like how it leaves my curls clumpy if I use too much of it, it feels light and controls my frizz. The level 2 medium hold might not work as well as a stronger hold but it was more important that my hair was light and airy.

It took me a long time to love my hair, and a part of that was because I never saw women with my hair type in the media. Women in movies either had pin-straight hair or mildly wavy hair. And when I started seeing more and more women with the curly mess that I have, I began appreciating it more.

My parents would hate it when I straightened my hair because I was removing something they saw as a gift. It took me 18 years to agree with them.


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