“We Are Never Meeting in Real Life” by Samantha Irby, A Book Review and Friend Request

Sometimes you just have to laugh, even when life is a dumpster fire.

Irby has the comedic chops and pathos to make writing about a trip to Whole Foods fascinating. Her fans include Roxane Gay, author of Bad Feminist, and Jenny Lawson, author of the memoir Let’s Pretend This Never Happened.

Irby’s first essay collection “Meaty” was about Crohn’s disease, being a black woman, failed relationships, and more. It was a Barnes & Noble Discover and Emily Books selection, and was featured in the “Best” lists of numerous publications including Publisher’s Weekly, Salon, and Cosmopolitan. It has been picked up by Jessi Klein and Abbi Jacobsen, and will be developed as a T.V show with FX. Not too shabby.

Samantha Irby is best known for the blog bitches gotta eat which she has been authoring since 2009. With more than 25,000 unique visitors per post, the blog is a colorful amalgamation of Irby’s personal interests, which include eating snacks, watching television, and musings on everyday life. Most posts include a mention of her cat, Helen. Irby has a talent for making the most basic of topics (say, the holiday season) feel fresh and interesting when she writes about them.

Her newest collection doesn’t disappoint, either. Irby can balance that out with witty, acerbic essays about why she should be a candidate for “The Bachelorette” and why she prefers the inside to the great outdoors. She also details a disastrous pilgrimage-slash-romantic vacation to Nashville to spread her father’s ashes, awkward sexual encounters, and dispenses advice on how to navigate friendships with former drinking buddies who are now suburban moms. She can poke fun at the ghosts of her past while detailing powerful emotional truths. She’s the kind of friend we would love to have.

We Are Never Meeting in Real Life” will be available May 30.


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Lyra Kuhn is a freelance writer and TEFL teacher from Portland, Oregon...