Ah, summer. A time of year for vacationing, reflecting, and relaxing in the sun’s golden rays. For some, however, summer is also a time of year for stressing about finding a bathing suit that they look and feel good in. As a curvy girl myself, this is a struggle I’ve tried to tackle since elementary school through one piece suits, tankinis, basically anything that would hide my stomach while I’m lounging around the pool. But this is the year to banish that tankini! It’s curvy girl swimsuit season!
It’s all about embracing what you have and feeling the best you possibly can this summer.
Everybody can rock a bikini if they want to!
Feeling good about your body in a bikini may not come easily for everyone… I would like to think I have confidence in what I look like, and yet, it can still be difficult to put myself out there instead of hiding behind layers of fabric. One thing that has helped is that I have tried to stop comparing myself to others. We all have our struggles, and just because somebody looks killer in a bikini doesn’t mean they don’t deal with other baggage. In fact, body positivity goes both ways! Anybody can feel uncomfortable regardless of their size. It’s all about embracing what you have and feeling the best you possibly can this summer.
Just know that it is very possible to uplift other women while also feeling good about yourself and what you have to offer. A favorite quote of mine that’s hanging on my fridge is, “If you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely” ~Roald Dahl. This is completely fitting for swimsuit season. Confidence and self-love are contagious.
Consider going outside your comfort zone in terms of stores and styles.
There are so many stores that carry all sorts of styles of swimwear–who knows what you’ll try on and love? I highly recommend Target if you’re looking to mismatch tops and bottoms. They have tons of variety in patterns, styles, and sizes. Don’t be afraid to try on anything you want to, even if you don’t think it’ll be as flattering as other suits. Many brands, such as ASOS and Forever 21 have swimsuits for every body type, which shows how far the fashion industry has come in terms of diversity. All the tools are there for you to rock what you’ve got!
If you’re still having trouble, I suggest you take a step back and try not to get discouraged. Just like with any type of clothing, shopping can be difficult and tiresome! Us curvy girls know that shopping can be a lot of trial-and-error before you find the right outfit. Wearing a swimsuit is a large source of fear for a lot of girls, so taking the time to find the right one will definitely be worth it in the end. It’s time for a curvy girl swimsuit to be embraced, not a struggle. Enough already!
Most importantly, I encourage you to pick a swimsuit that you feel good in.
There’s nothing wrong with a one piece suit or a tankini if that’s what you want to rock! Just don’t feel like you have to be confined to something that hides your figure if you want to show more skin. I’ve had so many of my friends tell me they wish they could wear a bikini but their body shape doesn’t allow it. That is a ridiculous myth that has been spread for decades: that you have to have a “perfect body” to show more skin at the beach or the pool. .
I’ve seen so many articles online titled “Exercises to Help You Get a Bikini Body”. While there’s nothing wrong with motivating yourself to become healthier, obsessing about looking flawless in any article of clothing is extremely unhealthy for your self-esteem and self-image. You can wear a bikini regardless of size, weight, height, bra size, scars, stretch marks, disabilities, or anything else that may be stopping you from taking the plunge. Who knows, you may inspire somebody else to be brave when they see you so happy in what you’re wearing. The more women decide to wear what they want rather than trying to please others, the more normal it becomes by societal standards.
I read a beautiful article by Jenny Trout in which she explained that her New Year’s resolution was to wear a bikini to the beach in the summer. Everyone immediately asked her if she was going to go on a diet, get weight-loss surgery, or start an intense fitness regime. Instead, she answered that wearing a bikini simply requires putting one on your body and nothing else. The more we as women adopt this mindset the better off we’ll be!
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