I just entered a new relationship. As anyone who has experienced the start of new and exciting romance would expect, I am over the moon with joy. It is early in the relationship, and though I feel generally optimistic about our future, I am definitely still in that ‘honeymoon’ phase where I spend a great deal of time gushing over pictures of him on Facebook. One night, recently, I decided to turn to Google to pass the time, since we are a long distance couple. I was hoping to find a good list or article to share, and so here is what I looked up: 1) Reasons to date a Muslim man. 2) Dating a Muslim man.
I was somewhat surprised when the first article that popped up after both searches was titled These Are the Reasons to Not Date a Muslim Man. This seemed like the opposite of what I had searched for. I found the other search results similarly disappointing, no matter how I phrased my search terms, the reasons not to date a Muslim article still popped up first. I even tried searching for ‘dating a Muslim man is great.’
Clearly Google did not express the same joy I felt with my new relationship.
I looked up something else for comparison: 1) Dating a Christian man. 2) Reasons to date a Christian man. The results were completely different. There was certainly no article about reasons not to date a Christian. Two top titles were 7 Reasons You Should Date a Religious Man, and How Godly Men See Dating and Marriage. Needless to say, the results were far less discouraging.
At this point I could launch into a discussion about why the results came up as such, but instead I have decided to rectify the situation by doing what I do best, writing.
So here are my 5 top reasons to date a Muslim man.
Alcohol: Muslims don’t drink alcohol. Personally I hate drinking. I have never enjoyed getting drunk, and rarely if ever participated in alcohol related festivities during university and afterwards. Dating a partner who also does not participate in this social activity is absolutely perfect.
Celebrations and Food: Muslims know how to party and host celebrations, and most certainly how to eat. Think about Eid al-Fitr. There is hardly a more joyous occasion with a better food experience that I can recall than the celebration at the end of Ramadan. Or the days of celebrating for Eid al-Adha.
Charitable: An entire pillar of Islam, Zakat, is for charity and compulsory giving to others in need. This fact pretty much speaks for itself.
Faithful: Let’s face it; it would be hard to find a more dedicated and faithful person than a Muslim. The dedication and effort it takes to pray 5 times a day, not to mention the organization and commitment in order to schedule time for prayer, is commendable to say the least.
Family Oriented: Like many religions, marriage and families are highly valued in Islam. And from personal experience, I have seen Muslim friends host their brothers to help them find jobs in new countries, opening their homes to provide shelter for extended family members. I have seen Muslim children provide their parents with sheep and cows to slaughter for Eid al-Adha, thinking of their parents enough to financially support them during religious celebrations. Not to mention the example of Hurricane Harvey and the Mosques that have opened their doors to families that need help.
I hope these points ring true for people who are dating a wonderful Muslim man right now, and certainly hope that people add on to my list, or are inspired to write more about this topic. Was I disappointed with the search results? Yes, but hopefully writing this piece is my small part in changing the results for others out there in wonderful relationships like mine.
Also published on Medium.