This isn’t a typical love yourself. Not a “tumblr poetry” love yourself, or a “social activism twitter account” love yourself. This is a “love yourself because it is the healthiest thing you can do for you” love yourself.
However, when it comes to women, the facts is, there are different standards.
Have you ever noticed that self confidence is perceived differently between men and women? Somehow men are rarely perceived as narcissistic, they’re called confident. Men aren’t egotistical, they’re ambitious. Finally, men aren’t arrogant, they know their self-worth. Of course there are cases where the true definition of narcissism and egotism and arrogance applies, and if men fit the actual definition, they might be called such. However, when it comes to women, the facts is, there are different standards. Why can’t women have the same standards applied to them? Why must we be the humble, the modest, the perceived insecure?
Maybe you’ve said to yourself, “being humble is good” or “modesty is attractive,” and while there is nothing wrong with being modest or being humble (both perfectly respectable traits), belittling yourself is not being humble. As the great Bobbe Sommer says, “Having a low opinion of yourself is not modesty, it’s self-destruction. Holding your uniqueness in high regard is not ‘egotism.’ It’s a necessary precondition to happiness and success.” Loving yourself doesn’t make you arrogant, or narcissistic, or egotistical. Loving yourself makes you strong.
Loving yourself is an act of rebellion.
In a consumer driven society where companies get profit based on people’s insecurity, loving yourself is an act of rebellion. Loving yourself is an act that challenges society in the best way possible because of one simple truth: people should be more important than profit. Most often than not, they aren’t. It needs to change.
It’s constantly challenging because media and society makes you feel like loving yourself is somehow wrong, and advertisement specifically targets this budding insecurity, making you feel inadequate and like you somehow aren’t enough. Media makes it exhausting to love yourself. I’m writing this because you are enough, you are worth it and there is nothing wrong with loving yourself. It’s an uphill battle, I’m not going to lie. It’s a battle that happens every day, and sometimes you lose.
Loving yourself is a challenge, an everyday battle – especially when everything seems pitted against confident, opinionated women. Why is it a battle? Because every day you are bombarded with beauty standards and an overwhelming feeling that you’re not good enough. Insider Secret: we all feel that way. Instead of caving into pressures that attempt to pit women against each other, we all need to lift each other up. The trick is to work harder, push against the media standards. Invest in yourself.
Walk like you belong here… because you do.
Despite the challenge, loving myself is the best decision I’ve made, a decision I choose to make every day. I guarantee it will be the best decision you make. Never forget this. Walk like you belong here… because you do. Walk with dignity, head held high, confident, not arrogant. Ambitious, not egotistical. Because you deserve a place on this earth and you have the right to be here. You’re beautiful, inside and out. Love that person you see in the mirror every day.
Never stop fighting. Never stop loving.