Self Discovery

Positive Self Talk: Things You Should Say To Yourself That You Would Say To Your BFF

Treat yourself with the love and kindness you deserve

Somehow it’s easier for us to compliment and uplift others but difficult to uplift ourselves. Why is that? It’s more than just embracing positive self-talk. It’s understanding what you’re feeling and allowing yourself to say what you would like to hear in order to feel better or similarly considering what you would tell your friend in the same situation.

Chances are you’d be a little less harsh and more forgiving if you were speaking to your bestie. We all need love and positivity. And friends…it begins with us, as we can’t give what we don’t have. If we want to give and receive love, we must first love ourselves.

Here are 6 things you’d say to your BFF that you should be saying to yourself too:

No matter what happens, you’re going to be okay.

Most of the time we jump to conclusions about what we think is going to happen and the anxiety builds up. It can get overwhelming. According to  Dr. Gregory Kushnick, Psy.D. “If you repeat this to yourself 50 times a day, you can get through any challenge.” Now that’s uplifting!

You are brilliant

When we make mistakes or do something wrong that doesn’t have the expected outcome we are looking for, our first initial reaction is to be hard on ourselves and beat ourselves up about it. But uplifting ourselves by saying “you are smart”, makes us feel capable and competent. It gives us just the right amount of boost of confidence to try again.

You are good enough just as you are

This is about self-acceptance and understanding that you already are enough as you are and you don’t need to change and become something else in order to be happy. Be happy with who you are. Always remember you are good enough.

Just breathe

Something so simple yet so powerful. This reminds us to take and step back and reflect. Meditation can help with getting in touch with your body and your breathing.

You are beautiful

How we speak and think of ourselves is a reflection of who we are. Saying you are beautiful and feeling it is knowing that you don’t need anyone to tell you ‘you’re beautiful’ because you already believe you are beautiful. This is always a good thing to say to yourself when you’re caught up in that comparison trap and start to feel down.

I love you

The most important thing you should be telling yourself is this. As narcissistic as this may seem it is probably the healthiest form of self-love. This can be more than just telling yourself ‘I love you’. Taking care of yourself like having a bubble bath is a excellent display of self-love. Loving yourself is knowing what you need to say to yourself or what you need to do in order to feel yourself saying ‘I love you’.

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”
 – Buddha


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