They say life is a journey, so it only makes sense that we will get lost along the way. Roadblocks and do not enter signs stop our paths and leave us to decide where to go from there. We expect ourselves to know what the next move is, but, the truth is, we usually do not.
Whether facing a personal failure, the loss of a relationship, or self-doubt, getting past that hurdle seems like the most treacherous thing to do. Knowing everyone faces difficult moments in life often does not make dealing with our own any easier.
Friends and family provide words of encouragement and sympathy such as “you’ll get past this,” and “everything will be okay.” While these insights may make us feel better in the moment, we can find ourselves back in the original state we were in as time goes on.
The only person who can guide you to happiness is the person who understands exactly what you’re going through. The only person who understands exactly what you’re going through is you.
How is it possible to make ourselves feel better during these times when we’re already feeling so low?
Self discovery and self love…
Designing a beautiful life begins with self-love, blogger Lavendaire says. It starts with confidence, self-worth, self-respect, and self-forgiveness. It’s asking yourself if your mind is being kind to your body and soul.
I am currently on my own journey to self discovery. I don’t quite know what this means yet, but I’m figuring it out more and more each day. I recently found myself in a situation in which I was losing myself and forgetting how to be okay on my own.
My goal is to get to a place where I know and love myself so much that nothing and no one can make me feel otherwise.
“When we love ourselves we know that we can give without becoming resentful, exhausted and depleted, and we can receive because we know we deserve it,” Joyce Marter of The Huffington Post says.
I have curated a few activities I plan to implement within my daily life to help myself get closer to this goal. While these tips may not have an immediate impact, they could just give me the boost I need to be a happier me.
What works for some may not work for all; however, if you find yourself in one of those tough life moments, give them a try. It may make your path to self-discovery a bit more navigable.
Write a list of your strengths and all the things you love about yourself. This will serve as a reminder to be grateful of the person you are and embrace it entirely every day. With self-recognition comes acknowledging weaknesses, too. Record your flaws and learn to be okay with them. Mariel has some great ideas and inspiration here.
Spend time with yourself…
Make time to be alone with just you and your thoughts. As difficult as this may seem, it is important to set aside time specifically for leisure and mindfulness. Make yourself a priority along with sleep and exercise. Physically feeling good is one step to mentally feeling good.
Find little ways to boost your self-esteem. Wear makeup or a bare face. Dress comfortable or fancy. Do whatever you need to look and feel your very best. You know what they say… look good, feel good.
Gaining and maintaining confidence in ourselves can be quite difficult, especially when going through times that challenge the way we view ourselves and the world. You can hone your self-confidence simply by acknowledging and acting out everyday activities:
- Sit taller
- Compliment yourself and others
- Surround yourself with positive people
- Visualize what you want
- Deal with your failures
- Do not compare yourself to others
- Write a self-love mantra and read it everyday